Have you ever given advice to a friend, and afterward thought to yourself, “Wow, that was some good advice!”
There’s a proverb that I’ve loved since I was a kid, “Listen to advice and accept correction, then in the end you will be wise.” (Proverbs 19:20 NLT)
From the outside looking in, it’s often so easy to know what to do. Think clearly. See the options without interference.
I think that’s because giving advice is easier than accepting it. When we give advice, we don’t have to actually follow through on it, so we’ll be honest. When we’re receiving advice, we have to do something with it, and that thing can be hard to do.
Sometimes we really don’t know what to do, and those are good times to ask a trusted person or 2 for advice, and use a reliable framework to make your decision.
But what about when we really do know the answer, we just know that it would be hard advice to follow through on?
I catch myself often looking for advice from a lot of different sources because I’m hoping enough people will validate me not taking action on what I know is the best thing to do.
I’m sure you’ve never done that though ;)
Here’s what I’m working on personally right now, especially with my business, but in my personal life too:
Give yourself advice like you’re giving advice to a friend. Pretend it’s not you looking for advice. It helps to eliminate false worries, take unhelpful emotions out of the decision making process, and give advice that might be a little challenging to accept, but is sound.
Take that advice, and act on it.
Sometimes that advice will be to ask a trusted friend or mentor what to do because you really don’t know. But a lot of times, that advice will be what you already knew to be true, but you know it’ll challenge you.
If you know what to do, just do it.